"Tracey can you talk more on why a woman should wait for a guy to ask her out? I looked at some of your posts about letting the guy ask you out even if he's shy... I guess I feel like this guy likes me and I don't want to miss an opportunity because I know he is shy and afraid... Any advice you can give me will be helpful."
-Gretchen
Hello, Gretchen, I am excited to get this grateful opportunity to answer your questions so you can imagine how happy I was when Tracy asked me to give you and the other readers a little insight about us men. I am that shy guy... I am that guy who has a history of waiting to long before I would ask a lady out that I was attracted to... See I thought the kinda of ladies I liked were out of my league. I love Jesus and I feel I am the whole package (I think that is how you ladies describe it) but I was scared of being rejected so many times I would not say anything knowing inside I probably missed a great lady. For some reason ladies think that men do not get scared of things but we do. We may do a nice job of making ladies think we do not have feelings but yes we do. I agree that you should wait and let this guy ask you out. I can tell you first hand that a guy needs to lead. It is important to him to pursue you and to know that you are a quality lady that not every guy thinks is to easy. See when a guy sees a lady that makes him do a double take trust me he will make a move. Deep down inside you may think he needs help to take that step but no he does not and he will find a way somehow. Think about it do you want to date a guy who needs your help right upfront before you even get to know him? I have not met you but I do not think that you want to be showing a guy what to do especially how to ask you out. Yep there is a possibility that he may miss his opportunity with you because he is scared but do not fix this for him just move on. Remember we are talking about dating and not getting married so if you move on to the next guy who is not afraid to ask you out this will keep your standards in tact and teach him to speak up. I am talking from experience because I missed a few opportunities but it reminded me about the importance of speaking up. Now I'm dating this amazing, amazing, amazing lady that I asked out. When she was in my presence something came over me and I took that leap that everybody talks about and I didn't let my fear of rejection stop me. You are worth a man coming out of his comfort zone. Since this is a popular question it will be nice to see a woman's point-of-view so stay tuned for part 2. Thank you for reaching out.
Miguel
-Gretchen
Hello, Gretchen, I am excited to get this grateful opportunity to answer your questions so you can imagine how happy I was when Tracy asked me to give you and the other readers a little insight about us men. I am that shy guy... I am that guy who has a history of waiting to long before I would ask a lady out that I was attracted to... See I thought the kinda of ladies I liked were out of my league. I love Jesus and I feel I am the whole package (I think that is how you ladies describe it) but I was scared of being rejected so many times I would not say anything knowing inside I probably missed a great lady. For some reason ladies think that men do not get scared of things but we do. We may do a nice job of making ladies think we do not have feelings but yes we do. I agree that you should wait and let this guy ask you out. I can tell you first hand that a guy needs to lead. It is important to him to pursue you and to know that you are a quality lady that not every guy thinks is to easy. See when a guy sees a lady that makes him do a double take trust me he will make a move. Deep down inside you may think he needs help to take that step but no he does not and he will find a way somehow. Think about it do you want to date a guy who needs your help right upfront before you even get to know him? I have not met you but I do not think that you want to be showing a guy what to do especially how to ask you out. Yep there is a possibility that he may miss his opportunity with you because he is scared but do not fix this for him just move on. Remember we are talking about dating and not getting married so if you move on to the next guy who is not afraid to ask you out this will keep your standards in tact and teach him to speak up. I am talking from experience because I missed a few opportunities but it reminded me about the importance of speaking up. Now I'm dating this amazing, amazing, amazing lady that I asked out. When she was in my presence something came over me and I took that leap that everybody talks about and I didn't let my fear of rejection stop me. You are worth a man coming out of his comfort zone. Since this is a popular question it will be nice to see a woman's point-of-view so stay tuned for part 2. Thank you for reaching out.
Miguel
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