How do you know if you have one of these types of wounds that you are not ready to be healed from? 1) Most people with this type of wound, "TALK" about the wound and the circumstances surrounding the wound all the time and every chance they get. 2) Most people don't want other people to "TOUCH" the wound. They appear to be interested in getting the wound healed when they are around other people, but as soon as they are alone again the wound resumes and takes it's place back in their life. 3) Most people have placed the wound on a "WORSHIP" altar. The wound and them are one. They have not come to terms with separating themselves from the wound. The wound is so engrained in their mind that they haven't even entertained the notion of separating themselves from the wound. It's almost like the wound is another body part that they carry around with great pride every single day. 4) Most people prefer to only keep others close to them who are familiar with why the wound exists and act as "ENABLERS." Having these enablers around almost certainly means that the wound will most definitely be a part of their conversations and activities with you. These enablers continue to justify the wound and give the wound a voice. 5) Most people understand that the wound is keeping them from moving forward. Secretly, deep down, and in their private thoughts, they have a "LOVE and HATE" relationship with the wound. They love the familiarity of the wound, but they hate that they aren't ready to get rid of it even though they know getting rid of it is the best thing for them.
If you are a single who is in search of finding a wife or husband that you can happily spend the rest of your life with who happens to have a wound that you are not willing to emotionally forget, your chances of successfully finding a husband or wife decreases considerably. You are not perfect, and God doesn't expect perfection from you. However, if you are still in the business of managing wounds that you and God both know you need to emotionally forget, then you are making God's job a little harder in trying to help you through your wound healing process.
Start managing your wound by letting your wound breathe. Expose the wound. Don't protect or cover the wound. If you really and sincerely want God to heal this emotional wound, then you must give God unrestricted access to the wound and stop trying to control the outcome. God's healing balm is the only natural antiseptic that is strong enough to finish your healing process.
As difficult as it maybe, it is critical and vital for you as a single to not begin your husband or wife search when an emotional wound is present. The good news is that the wound doesn't have to be permanent. However, it's okay to let the wound permanently separate itself from you. Don't be hard on yourself, because you let the wound hang around longer than you expected. You are already strong enough to rid yourself of the wound. You deserve a husband or wife that will touch your permanently healed wound and look you in your eyes and tell you it's okay for you to talk about how you got the wound, and most importantly, how you overcame the wound. Your wife or husband's job will not be to enable you or justify a need to worship the wound, but to remind you to lay this permanently healed wound at the altar---- at the feet of Jesus. Your husband or wife will agree with you that love and hate should never coexist in God's kingdom and that there is no need for you to be hard on yourself. So as you can see, there are many benefits in letting your wound heal, because you deserve so much more. Although you are still single right now, never forget that your wound doesn't have to define your destiny or your future marriage! Manage your wound by letting God heal it.