If you think your life is so messed up, try sitting with someone who may have lost a spouse whom they loved dearly and are now being forced to start over again as well. See perspective is everything, and even though your life may seem to be chaotic right now just give it time and God time to work on you and your life will follow.
So in the meantime, be positive and a great way in breaking out of what you may be feeling is sharing your testimony to help others. Talking from your pain has its pluses and minuses, but often times the pluses outweigh the minuses when you can inspire someone else who may be worst off than you are. The key is don't get stuck, because there is no doubt that God is going to restore you and take care of you. The question is can God still use you while you are hurting to bless someone else with your experience?