I too have some experience in long distance love. He was in the military (from a family that was career generational military might I add) and serving his country as he had dreamed he would do since a young boy. Let me just stop right here and say, God Bless our dads, moms, sons, daughters, cousins, friends, neighbors, uncles, aunts, wives, husbands, and anyone else who serve our great country. Our gratefulness is in abundance for all that you endure.
Too be honest, I don't think I appreciated this person during that time in my life, because I was totally and completely all about what was good for me. I knew upfront that his family was big and dedicated to serving their country, but I guess in the back of my mind I thought that he would not join or at least do a few years and return home. He did join and began to plot his career around being in the military.
What I learned is that when men and women decide to date and possibly marry someone who is active in the military, they need to understand the level of commitment that is required. We both were dedicated to one another in the dating relationship. During that time, we wrote letters, sent photos, talked on the phone, and enjoyed all the activities when he was on leave. Although I felt he was committed to our dating relationship, I struggled with his time away and distance and I learned something valuable about myself during that process.
Looking back, the only reason I couldn't deal with it was because I was being selfish. It's not like I didn't understand upfront that he was from a career generational military family who were the nicest supportive people you could ever meet. It was about me wanting to be like everybody else who was in a dating relationship and wanting to see him everyday. I couldn't see the importance of him demonstrating a high level of commitment and dedication that are definitely needed in long distance relationships.
Today, I am definitely a different person, and I believe that long distance relationships can and do work. People are loving from a distance everyday. You have to trust the person, support the person, pray for the person, and connect with what is important to the person. I also believe that Jesus needs to be at the center of all relationships, and His presence should prevail even stronger when two people are loving from a distance. God brings people together His way and in His time. If God is calling you to love someone from a distance, then saddle up, believe it is possible, recognize that your distance is only for a season, and be thankful that God choose you to love this person.
The military guy is happily married today to a beautiful woman who adores him with some cute kids. As the Bible says all things work together for the good. When you believe God is doing the leading, don't shy away from long distance love.